The truth is something was wrong last time. It had to be. No one breaks up for no reason. They cheated, you fell out of love, they weren’t the person you thought they were, they lost the figure they had when you met them, one of you fell for someone else… something had to happen to make you break up. Magic won’t help you now. The past is the past, and most of the time you can’t get it back.
2. You may just be desperate/lonely
The longer you stay single, the better your ex’s start to look. You remember the sex to be better than it was, and you remember the problems to be easier to get over than they are. Just because you listen to Irene Logan’s ‘na me dey dey’ track 21 times doesn’t mean you miss them, it means you miss someone and something (oh yeah! talking from experience). You just want to feel something again. But 99% of the time, they aren’t the answer. So get over it and keep doing your own thing until something fresh comes along.
3. You sort of have an obligation now
When you get back into an old relationship, you are giving false hope to the one who already had their heart broken. Do you really want to build up someone’s hopes and dreams again just to potentially have to shatter their heart in a month or so? It’s just not fair. You don’t need to put anyone through that. Clean breaks are the hardest, but also end up being the best for both parties.
4. You always start at different emotional levels
Chances are one of you is way farther in the recovery stage than the other. When you first start out in a relationship, you both are in new pain and progress with similar emotional time frames. But what has changed since you broke up? Who have you each slept with? What kind of relationships have you both been with since each other? Maybe one of you still sleeps with your tshirt from two years ago, while you’ve been giving someone else your tshirt to sleep in.
5. The break-up plagues the back of your mind
You broke up, remember? Of course you remember. That’s all you thought about for weeks or months, depending on how long you dated. You most likely pouted around for a bit, or you went and slept with a bunch of people. Grieving happens in different ways! (No judgements.) Either way, when you get back together, the break up will always be there. It happened and you won’t forget about it. So it’s almost like you can see the doomsday, but you just don’t know when. It’s hard to come back from that. I still think about the last kiss from my ex. I can tell you the date, time, and place. Even if we got back together, I would just be counting the days to our next last kiss.
Life has no guarantees. And sure, you have a slim chance at working it through with your ex. But make sure you think about why it ended, and how it ended. Can you come back from that? Will it ever be the same? I’m no Miss Cleo, so I can’t tell you the future. But what I can tell you is that you should move on. I always prefer fresh food to leftovers.
Good luck!
By: Emefa Nancy Dzradosi/ Radio Univers 105.7MHz
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